Do you find yourself getting angry or bent out of shape at every little thing?
Does your whole life feel like ONE giant emergency after the other?
Is everything filled with drama?
If you want life to be easier you must learn NOT TO sweat the small stuff. Someday, you’re gonna realize it’s ALL small stuff in the grand scheme.
We have a tendency to REACT vs. RESPOND.
Reacting is rooted in emotions.
Responding requires you to be calm first and think before speaking.
Think about all the stuff you get worked up over on a daily. Things like getting cut off in traffic, a long line at the grocery store, your kids throwing a tantrum, someone being late for a meeting….things that in the bigger picture are trivial and not worth the energy you spend getting upset.
Spoiler alert! You are in control of your thoughts and emotions and keeping them in check.
Just so we’re so clear, I’m not on a high horse. I’ve been guilty of sweating the small stuff too. I have had to learn the hard way. NOW — I do my best to stay peaceful. I do my best to remain positive and to live a positive life. Being HUMAN sometimes gets the best of me as I’m sure it does with you too. BUT, it’s when we take a step back and assess why we are so angry or why we are so bothered that we can actually grow.
It’s when we allow ourselves to remember that HALF of what we tend to get ‘mad’ about won’t even matter a year from now that we can get back to living a happy life. Again, for each person this will be subjective. I am NOT encouraging you to be a doormat.
I am encouraging you to really take a look at how you respond to situations and people on a daily basis and think about if being so ‘angry’ is worth the consequences.
If you find yourself perpetually angry and sweating the small stuff, you must address the root of it. Get to the root of your WHY so you can change your responses.
We all experience anger, but we don’t have to hold on to it and let it run our lives. The real question always remain “what are you REALLY mad about and is it worth it?” If you like feeling on edge all the time then by all means, close this article now. However, if your goal is to live a MORE peaceful life, you should find ways to overcome your anger and eliminate sweating the small stuff that takes you there.
“Do you remember the things you were worrying about a year ago? How did they work out? Didn’t you waste a lot of fruitless energy on account of most of them? Didn’t most of them turn out all right after all?” ~Dale Carnegie
I have been told I can be “too kumbaya” and it used to hit a nerve because I PREFER peace over anything else and I couldn’t understand why someone wouldn’t choose that over feeling and acting crazy and why anyone would think choosing THAT was wrong.
Don’t get me wrong, I get upset at situations and people for sure, but I do my best not to hold on to things if I can help it. It doesn’t always work. Sometimes I feel “justified” about what I’m upset about and it’s challenging to move beyond it. BUT — then I refocus my attention on what’s really important in my life and staying angry is not my goal.
I encourage you to focus on your blessings and on moving forward in your life. It’s not always easy, but it’s not impossible either. Trust me, problems can’t be solved with the same mindset that created them. Relax. Be grateful. Stop sweating the small stuff and watch how your life shifts.
Bless Up,
Coach Kerri